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Private Link for those in the 13-week End-of-Life Preparation Immersion Course

Resources for Participants

This Page is a Work in Progress!

Welcome! 
In advance of the Immersion Course,
please do these preliminaries. 

Week 1

Death as Teacher, Death as Gift:

Introduction, Intentions, Principles, Buddies, Invitations, Curiosity

This Weeks TO-DO’s:

From this week:

  • Consider the Fascia
  • Connect with your Buddy
  • Set your Altar up & Gather Beloved Dead Photos
  • Consider Organization Systems
  • Contemplate, Dream, Discuss, Feel

Preparation for next week:

  • Think about: Who you might want to walk you towards death?
  • Print out a paper version of the FIVE WISHES here.
  • Print out the End-of-Life Checklist here as a .pdf or here as a .doc.

Week 2

Designing Your Sacred Decline:

Health Care Agent, Patient Advocacy, Death Care Teams, How to Talk to Loved Ones.

This Weeks TO-DO’s:
  • Talk with your buddy
  • Consider Health Care Agent Characteristics
  • Consider potential death care agents
  • Talk to family and friends
  • Contemplate Death Care Team & Patient Advocacy Approaches
  • INTEGRATE!

For Next Week:

  • Consider this:  What are the qualities for YOU that make for a good death?

    This Weeks Resources:

    The Heart is not a Pump:

    How to Pick a Health Care Proxy

    Patient Advocacy & Death Doulas

    How to Talk to Loved Ones:

    Hospice Article re: Talking to Loved Ones

    Educational Opportunities:

    • Osher Life Long Learning are around the US.  These folks often have estate planning, advanced directives, and other end of life topics.

      Week 3

      Cultivating the Qualities that Make for a Good Death:

      Characteristics for Dying & How to Curate them!, Death contemplations & Death Humor, Courting the Mystical: Songs, Chants, Journaling, Poems

      This Weeks TO-DO’s:

      Followup from this week:

      • Contemplate your relationship to the infinite
      • Contemplate what makes for a good death
      • Cultivate the qualities you enjoy

      Preparation for next week:

        This Weeks Resources:

        Midline Meditation:

        Death Related Playlists:

        Youtube Playlist

        Spotify Playlist

        Week 4

        Honoring the Container with YOUR Values:

        Medical Interventions, Pain Management, Alternative Endings, Being at Choice

        This Weeks TO-DO’s:

        Week 5

        Embodied Living & Dying:

        Falling in Love with All of Existence, Tantra and the Practice of Surfing the Wave, Death-Informed Practices.

        This Weeks TO-DO’s:

        1.Contemplate Embodied Dying:

        • The sacred marriage of spirit and matter
        • What’s in the Way is the Way or The Cure for the Pain is in the Pain
        • What your Seeking is also Seeking You.
        • What if we could trust ourselves to know how to die?
        • The inevitability of our death as a portal to the greatest personal mastery – being with fear & riding the ups and downs of the wave of life.
        • What if death could be the beloved? A cherished lover?

        2.Conversations:

        • Talk to your buddy.
        • Practice the questions: What’s the biggest obstacle to trusting your own body? What super power would you need in order to trust your body?

        Week 6

        A Roadmap for Self & Others:

        Important paperwork for crucial moments! Finalizing the 5 Wishes, Dementia Directives, MOST, DNR, Medical POA

        This Weeks TO-DO’s:

        Finalize the Roadmap:

        • Finalize Wishes 3, 4, & 5.
        • Dementia Directive
        • POST or MOST forms
        • DNR form if applicable
        • Read HIPPA if desired
        • Health Care POA for your state

        Conversations:

        • Talkto your buddy.
        • Talk to your health care agent, family, and friends
        This Weeks Resources:

        Five Wishes:

        Health Care (Medical) POA EXAMPLE (NC)

        Specific Medical Orders

        Medical Release & HIPAA

        Dementia Directive

        Week 7

        Tuning into Your Soul’s Blueprint:

        Archetypes of Death, Trauma Release, Psychedelics, & The Practice of Dying

        This Weeks TO-DO’s:

        Continue to Finalize the Roadmap:

        • Paperwork Designing Your Decline from Week 6

        Conversations:

        • Talk to your buddy.

        Week 7:

        • Contemplate Trauma Unwinding Resources
        • Contemplate Deep Dive Best Practices
        • Contemplate Psychedelics if aligned
        • Reach out to folks who offered their assistance if aligned
        • Some small or large practice for Day of the Dead Celebration
        This Weeks Resources:

        Trauma Based Resources:

        New Death-based Playlist on Spotify PUBLIC

        Spiritual Resources

        Resources for Sacrament Based Death Practices

        Specifics from our Module:

          Week 8

          Returning the Vessel:

          After Death Choices re: Body & Spirit Care, Disposition of Body.

          This Weeks TO-DO’s:

          Continue Contemplating the What’s Most Alive for You re: Your Own Soul’s Blueprint

          Conversations:

          • Talk to your buddy.

          Week 8:

          This Weeks Resources:

          Paperwork:

          After Death Options:

          Aquamation (Eco Friendship Alternative to Cremation)

          Egg Capsule 

          Green Burial in WNC

          Composting of Bodies

          Donation of Body:

          Home Death Care

          Home Funerals & Home Burials

          Week 9

          Caring for the Dead:

          Vigil & Funeral Options, Write Your Eulogy, Traditions from our Past, Caring for our own at Death

          This Weeks TO-DO’s:

          Conversations:

          • Talk to your buddy.

          Week 9:

          • Research & Contemplate after Disposition of Body Options
          • Disposition of Body Forms
          • Caring for our Own at Death Contemplations (others & self)
          • Specify your wishes for your transition
          • Write your own Eulogy
              This Weeks Resources:

              Cultural Traditions:

              Write Your Own Eulogy:

                Declaration Regarding Disposition of Physical Body

                Authorization for Cremation

                Death Certificate

                Refusal to Donate Organs Form:

                Week 10

                The Blessed Giveaway:

                Financial Considerations, Caring for Pets, & Strategies for Stuff

                This Weeks TO-DO’s:

                Conversations:

                • Talk to your buddy.

                Week Homework:

                • GRATITUDE practice
                • Beneficiaries – TOD/POD
                • Passwords and Phone Access
                • Arrangements for Pets/Kids
                • Financial/Durable Power of Attorney
                • Passwords
                • Decluttering (Swedish Death Cleaning)
                • Will/Trust
                This Weeks Resources:

                Financial Resources

                Caring for Your Pets After Your Death

                Strategies for Stuff:

                Gratitude Meditation:

                • https://www.mindful.org/5-guided-meditations-to-fill-your-heart-with-gratitude/

                Week 11

                Building a Death Literate Community:

                The Importance of Community, Working with Grief, Shock, & Fear, Suggestions & Resources

                This Weeks TO-DO’s:

                Conversations:

                • Talk to your buddy about Grief and Fear

                Week 11:

                • Working with the Spine & The Wave Pattern
                • Listen to Martin Prechtel on Grief and Praise
                • Explore your Grief & Fear
                • What does Death Literate Community Look & Feel Like to you?
                This Weeks Resources:

                Martin Prechtel on Grief and Praise, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

                For those without family or close friends. How to create deathing community:

                • Https://inelda.org International End of Life Doula Association
                • Omega Homes for the last 2 months of life.
                • https://www.ccld.community/

                Week 12

                Bucket Lists, Legacies, & Last Wishes:

                Prioritizing Life, Follow the Yummy, Internal & External Lists. 

                This Weeks TO-DO’s:

                Conversations:

                • Talk to your buddy about Bucket Lists, Last Wishes, Legacies

                Week 12:

                • Internal & External Bucket Lists
                • Considerations re: Legacy & Last Wishes
                • Writing Eulogy or Obituary
                • Andrea Gibson’s New Kind of Bucket List and the “To Make A Snow Angel On a Stranger’s Grave” email that I sent on 12/3/24

                Revisit from Weeks 10&11

                • Consider Decluttering Strategies
                • Consider Death Literate Community (Death Café)
                • Consider being with your own and others’ grief

                Week 13

                After Death Musings – What’s Next?:

                This Weeks TO-DO’s:

                Conversations:

                • Talk to your buddy about After Death & Next Steps

                Week 13:

                • What are your truths about post-death?
                • Explore NDE’s if it’s aligned.

                Revisit from Weeks 10&11

                • Template for Eulogy
                • Template for Obituary

                SOLSTICE

                Celebrating our Transformation:

                Optional. Graduation. Closure. Sharing.

                This Weeks Resources:

                The Death Archetypes Website: https://www.deatharchetypes.com/quiz

                BOOKS….

                MOVIES…

                General Resources

                Articles by Lee

                Embodied Dying

                What we really think about on our deathbeds

                Whoever Dies with the Least Stuff Wins

                Lee Warren’s Article on Community Grief

                    Playlists (death-related)

                    Youtube Playlist

                    Spotify Playlist

                        Websites

                        Let’s Reimagine Free Education about Death

                        Final Passages

                        Share the Care

                        Life After Death Group on Facebook 

                        Fabulous Resource list from When You Die

                        Order of the Good Death

                        Kimchi Rylander’s Death Journey Positive Deathing by Kimchi Facebook Group and Flickr Photo Album.

                        Dr. Raymond Moody’s Life After Life website

                        Orphan Wisdom Website

                        Death Doula Directory

                            Articles

                            Sitting Up With the Dead: Lost Appalachian Burial Customs

                            The Movement to Bring Death Closer – NY Times

                            Divesting Our End of Life from Fossil Fuels – Earth Island Journal

                            Brain Pickings Review of A Year with Rilke by Joanna Macy

                            Brain Pickings Review of Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations on Mortality

                            Videos & Podcasts

                            The Bitter End: On Medical Doctors & their End of Life Choices by Radio Lab.

                            David Kessler interview by Brene Brown on Grief & Finding Meaning.

                            Making Friend with Death by Mary Lane interviews.

                            Four Things that Matter Most with Dr. Ira Byock Author of Dying Well

                            Martin Prechtel on Grief and Praise, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

                            GriefCast Podcast from the UK

                            Caitlin Doughty – Ask A Mortician

                            WNC Resources

                            Center for Conscious Living & Dying

                            Asheville Alternative Death Care Facebook Group

                            Center for End of Life Transitions.

                            Cooperate WNC

                            Death Seeding Life

                            Holding Space in Asheville

                            WNC Death Doula List

                            Josh Fox Grief Rituals

                            Kedar Brown Grief Rituals 

                            Reach out to me if you need Grief Doulas.

                                End of Life Preparation Immersion Course Details

                                End of Life Preparation Immersion with Lee Warren

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